Posts with the category “m-note”

Recently, I was talking to a person who was working their way through the grief of losing someone they love. We were talking about what has helped them the most and they said, “people just showing up to hang out with me.” It reminded me that presence is powerful. This fall, we have been studying the book of Job at The Gathering. Most of the book is about Job’s friends trying to make him feel bette...  Read More

I have been reflecting a lot this week about the importance of the church. In the wake of our national election, we once again see the divisions of our country laid bare. Some people are celebrating, others grieving, some excited, and others scared. Looking at the electoral map and exit polls, we see that we are divided by geography, income, education, race, gender, as well as by our politics. It ...  Read More

On my shelf at home, I have a Bible that is special to me. It belonged to my grandfather and each morning he would read from it later in his life. Though I never talked to him about it when he was alive, I suspect he liked this particular Bible because it has study notes and commentary printed in it to help you better understand what you were reading. He was smart, very faithful, quiet, but with a...  Read More

Early in my ministry, I began asking people in the congregation about the questions they (or their friends who don’t go to church) would most like to hear me preach about. I have gotten all sorts of interesting ones over the years but certain topics or questions come up every time I ask the question: Is Jesus the only way to heaven? How do we reconcile science and religion? What about forgiveness,...  Read More

This week, I received a note about our current series Hold These Truths: Centering Jesus in a Divisive Political Season. The person (who happens to be engaged with politics and people on both sides of the aisle) shared with me how much fear there is ahead of this upcoming election. She is right. Fear, anxiety, and even panic are at an all-time high. People are scared about what the results of the ...  Read More

Last weekend, I began a new sermon series, Hold These Truths: Centering Jesus in a Divisive Political season. I talked about two myths we often hold when it comes to Jesus and politics. It was an important message given the season so if you missed it, I really hope that you will listen or share it here. Some believe that Jesus is not political, and therefore politics has no place in the church. Th...  Read More

Like many of you, I watched the vice-presidential debate this past week. Even if you only saw clips on TikTok or Instagram, you likely heard or saw that the tone was different. On several occasions, the opposing candidates talked to each other, agreed with one another, and even offered the other candidate words of kindness. While some people cynically warned not to overstate the seemingly kind ton...  Read More

When I am stressed, I usually don’t show up as the best version of myself. I can be irritable, on edge, and not always treat people the way that I intend.  We can all probably identify with this feeling. I was thinking about this because collectively, our country is “stressed.” We have a major presidential election coming in November. No matter where you fall politically, many of us are passionate...  Read More

People often ask me, “how did you become a pastor?” It is a hard question to answer without unpacking a lot of my life story! But, one of the earliest influences on my life and faith was the youth group I was a part of in my home church. I was reluctant, but in that youth group people saw in me certain gifts, and invited me to begin practicing leadership at a young age when I didn’t really think t...  Read More

I have a more recent friend who doesn’t go to church. In fact, when I met him and when we started hanging out, he was clear with me that he doesn’t really believe in God and that he wasn’t going to come to church. I laughed and said, “That’s ok. Everyone I hang out with doesn’t have to go to church. But, if you ever change your mind, just know I will have a seat for you.”Over the years, we have go...  Read More

Last weekend was my 47th birthday (thanks to all of you for the birthday wishes!). After a busy month of moving kids around and getting them settled in new places, we are falling into a new routine here at the Miofsky house. It is quieter and, well, just different. I find myself missing the way it used to be, and not yet adapted to the way it will be. If I am not careful, it is easy to focus on th...  Read More

During our first few years of marriage, Jessica and I were going through a lot of transitions. We had moved to a new city, didn’t have a social network, had to be financially independent, and were adjusting to working full-time jobs and graduate school. It was a lot. Amidst that, we gave little attention to our marriage. We recognized that we needed help and wanted to focus on our relationship as ...  Read More

This July was a busy one for my family. I took a couple of weeks off to spend time with my family before we moved Carly into her dorm last weekend for her freshman year in college. This meant that while I got to worship online, I was not present for in-person worship for three weeks in a row. For me, this is rare! I grew up in a family that went to church and have worked in churches as a pastor si...  Read More

When I was a kid, we played a made-up game that was a cross between capture the flag and tag. We had neighborhood boundaries, special house rules, always played at night, and played on several teams. Each team had a home base. Like any normal game of tag, you could wander and roam, but you always wanted to be mindful of where your base was. You never wanted to get too far away. The further away, t...  Read More

I just returned from Northwest Arkansas where I attended the last of the big United Methodist Conference meetings of the year (it has been a lot). This Jurisdictional Conference is a meeting of the United Methodists in the south-central part of the United States. Typically, it is where we elect new bishops. This year, I was honored to be able to give a short talk to the conference about the future...  Read More

Wednesday, I did something that I have never done. I mounted a flagpole at my house and hung up the American flag in preparation for the 4th of July.  Some of you love the flag. Others of you, not so much. I get it. I had mixed feelings about hanging up the flag. With injustices still pervasive in our country and the broken nature of our politics, there are many who wonder if our country is worth ...  Read More

Recently someone asked me, “Matt, why do you talk about Jesus so much?” They went on to explain that they usually think more broadly about God. After all, God is universal, encompassing a lot of viewpoints, perspectives, and traditions. But Jesus. He seems so…specific! They confessed to me that they struggle thinking about Jesus, especially equating him with God.They aren’t alone. I think this per...  Read More

Last week, I ran into a retired pastor who recognized me (and I confess, I didn’t recognize her). She remembered me because her church and my childhood church would team up for student mission trips each summer. Way back when I was in high school, I went on several of those trips. We talked, swapped a few memories, and talked about what those trips meant to us. At the end, I thanked her for being ...  Read More

I just returned from spending time speaking and teaching at the North Georgia Annual Conference of the UMC. They bought every participant there, lay and clergy, a copy of The Methodist Book of Daily Prayer, and then graciously invited me to speak about the importance of sabbath, rest, and having a spiritual healthy rhythm of life. It was a special time to be in the conference where I started my mi...  Read More

This weekend is the Missouri Annual Conference of the United Methodist Church (I know, we have a lot of conferences). This is a yearly gathering of all pastors and lay representatives from each of the roughly 600 UMC churches in Missouri. It is a time of worship, learning, conversation, visioning, and celebration. Among those celebrations are two important milestones for staff at The Gathering. Fi...  Read More

It has been a whirlwind month for our family including lots of last shows/games/events, two graduations, figuring out future plans, and celebrating milestones. I know many of you are in the same boat. In fact, I am late with my M-Note, in part, because we are now working on graduation parties. In the midst of it all, I am learning the truth I have often preached, that God is never done with us. Mo...  Read More

Last weekend Jess and I watched as our oldest son, Caleb, graduated from Missouri State University in Springfield, MO. Tonight we will get to see our daughter, Carly, graduate from Webster Groves High School. It is a season of transitions, milestones, banquets, ceremonies and parties. We are just trying to keep up and savor every moment of it all. Part of graduating is receiving wisdom. Graduation...  Read More

We’ve been quietly working on a project here at The Gathering that I’m so excited to finally share with you. This summer, we will officially launch The Gathering’s Church Planters Lab, by welcoming three amazing pastoral fellows to our staff team.What is the Church Planters Lab?It was conceived as a way for The Gathering to help nurture and develop pastors on a continuous basis. The Lab is in coll...  Read More

I just got back from the 2024 General Conference and the news is good, very, very good. I thought I would do the M-Note video style this week, as I share my final update about the results of the conference and what it means for us.Learn more about the news of General Conference.Learn more about the history of the anti-LGBTQ language that we finally removed.Peace,MattP.S. This weekend, we'll begin ...  Read More

I am in Charlotte, NC at the United Methodist Church’s long delayed General Conference. This is the legislative body that gathers every 4 years (except for COVID) and decides church law in our denomination. I am one of 6 clergy delegates from Missouri and joining about 750 delegates from all over the world. The last several years have been difficult for our denomination. More conservative churches...  Read More

This weekend, I am traveling to Charlotte, North Carolina for the 2024 General Conference of the United Methodist Church. General Conference only happens once every 4 years and it is the only body that can change United Methodist Church law and policies. There will be nearly 900 elected delegates from all over the world coming together for nearly two weeks to make decisions for the future of our d...  Read More

Earlier this week, there was heavy rain overnight. The next morning when I woke up to walk the dogs, there was an incredible vibrance to the spring colors. The grass was bright green, the irises in my front yard were a deep shade of purple. The reds, pinks, and blues of our emerging flowers almost seemed to be lit in neon. The gloomy and windy rainstorm the night before dissipated and was replaced...  Read More

The Gathering celebrated Easter this year at The Factory, and I want to thank all of you that were a part of it. We had an incredible morning of worship including an offering that will fund our local mission work including our Literacy Project. This weekend in worship I will celebrate the overall amount, and it is exciting. I am especially grateful to all of you that served and invited others to j...  Read More

Easter weekend is here! The Gathering will have TWO worship services - 9 and 10:45am - this Sunday, at a brand new venue - The Factory. Here are 10 reasons why you (and your friends/family) won’t want to miss EasterSTL at The Factory:1. You’ll be able to get a family picture and show off your Easter outfits! We will have The Photo Bus St. Louis! Post them to Instagram using #EasterSTL.2. Incredibl...  Read More

Maybe you’ve heard the phrase, “without pain you can’t know joy.” The sentiment gets at a philosophical puzzle, namely can we know one feeling or state without experiencing its opposite. For example, we know what warmth is by experiencing that which is cold. We know peace only because we have experienced suffering. We know grace only because we have experienced judgment. You get the idea. Somethin...  Read More

I will never forget Easter 2008 at The Gathering. We decided to do something different. Instead of having Easter in our sanctuary, expecting people to come to us. We decided to go to people, and we celebrated Easter in Forest Park under the World’s Fair Pavilion. There were a lot of memorable moments from that day. We almost didn’t have any chairs, we underestimated how windy it would be, so our d...  Read More

Here is a sobering statistic – in 2022 over 70% of United Methodist Churches had no new baptisms, confirmands, or members. That means there were no new babies being welcomed in, no students getting confirmed, and no new people deciding to get baptized or become members. There are lots of reasons for this - cultural disinterest in religion, declining church participation, reluctance to invite frien...  Read More

If you haven’t been to the Clayton site lately, there is A LOT of exciting stuff happening. As one church that meets in three locations – no matter which site you attend – I want to celebrate each of our sites together, especially when good things are happening.Just recently, Ellie Sanazaro joined the Clayton team as the new Gathering Kids Site Leader! She and her family have been attending The Ga...  Read More

This week I got to travel to be with pastors from some of the leading United Methodist Churches from around the country. I had the opportunity to speak to the group, learn from so many others, and hang out with creative and innovative leaders. It was good for my soul. Ministry can be isolating work and it has always been important for me to surround myself with people that I can learn from. I thin...  Read More

Part of our work here at the church is to do funeral services. There is something sobering and powerful about standing up and offering words to celebrate someone’s life. After every funeral I do, I can’t help but think, “What will they say about me?” That might sound strange, but I think it is a question we all wonder about. What will people remember about you? What will they say when they gather ...  Read More

This year, Ash Wednesday also happens to be Valentine’s Day. I’ve seen a lot of jokes going around about the irony of celebrating romantic love and mortality all on the same day!On Ash Wednesday, we remember our sin, mortality, and need for forgiveness. Ashes are an ancient symbol of repentance and so we mark our heads to both confess our sin and as a sign of our desire to receive forgiveness. On ...  Read More

I think a lot of you know that I have a healthy attachment to my little orange Honda Fit. After famously declaring it dead a couple of years ago (pictured here), I fixed it up and continue to drive it today. I am going on year 17 with this car! But this past month, Jess and I started exploring the thought of getting a new car. We even spent a few nights the past week test driving a few options. I ...  Read More

Late last week, I traveled to Washington, D.C. where I spoke to pastors and lay leaders of the Virginia Annual Conference of the United Methodist Church. It was a packed day where I gave three talks and connected with all sorts of creative leaders. When I got on the plane to travel home late Saturday, I was wiped. When I finally arrived in St. Louis, I shuffled off the plane bleary eyed and did so...  Read More

Changing requires new routines. But it is tough to start and maintain a new habit. One way to make it easier is doing it with someone else. This makes a new habit more enjoyable, more social, and builds in some accountability. Most of us find greater motivation for a new habit if we do it with someone else.  The American Society of Training and Development found people are 65 percent more likely t...  Read More

Credit: https://www.flickr.com/photos/bswise_/49551058501 When we want to make a change in our lives we mistakenly believe that we need to take big immediate action in order to get there. But change is usually the result not of sudden and dramatic action, but of small steps. A principle of sustaining change in our lives or in the world is starting small. I have been reflecting on this principle ah...  Read More